INTERESTS AND LIMITS

CURRENT AND DETAILED

Interests: Specific

This list will change as I learn, experiment, and discover what I truly enjoy. I don’t intend on being a domme-of-all-trades, I’m already far beyond the point of wanting to please everyone all the time.

Very much looking for service-oriented men who love psychodrama punctuated with the physical; men who understand serving women is their true purpose in life, the best way they find deep personal fulfillment.

Fortunately for you, I’m in an explorative mood.

Spanking with paddles, floggers, canes, other implements, green switches you bring in from outside, more options as I learn or imagine them. Hand-spankings are rewards only.

Foot/shoe/stocking/hand/glove worship. Stinky feet/socks/ stockings/boots, with enough notice to plan around the need to create stink. I don’t think there’s a way to make my hands stink without also jeopardizing my health.

Light bondage, light mummification, light sensory deprivation, light marking (if requested). As I learn, my range will expand to heavy.

Kicking, ball crushing, trampling, limited face slapping. Punching is a reward only.

Various kinds of CBT. Light electricity (violet wand, TENS unit). Chasity cages and locks.

Strap-on training.

Crawling
Begging
Verbal and/or physical degradation
Dehumanization, including literal objectification, furniture play
Writing on body in washable marker or eye pencil
Penis humiliation regardless of size
Mouth-soaping
Limited public humiliation

Anything and everything I can think of that bruises your soul and brings me joy. I fully expect my creativity to expand our possibilities.

Interrogation: light or hard, fun and silly or deathly serious, pain included or excluded as you require (cake not included)

Medical (limited by minimal equipment). Not to be confused with medical play.

Military: High Protocol or POW

Religious: Confession, Penance, Punishment, Absolution (I’m not Catholic, you cannot buy your way out of your sins, you have to earn forgiveness)

Fantasy intoxicants can be used for roleplay or games. Things like “truth serum” in your water or “knock-out” lip gloss are fun. Acting is required because no actual drugs are used.

Erotic Hypnosis. Can be alone or part of roleplay. Fantasy intoxicants can be part of this as well. Sissy hypno is not offered.

Anything that directly involves my hands is considered a reward. I have elegant, delicate hands and fingers; and I suffer increasing osteoarthritis. Tools or objects requiring extreme grip strength may be a limit for me. This limits face slapping, though I like doing it. Hand-spankings and punching are offered only as rewards.

Foot/hand worship. Providing hand care to me is a possible reward, especially after a hard session of flogging or other play which requires a lot of grip strength or creates extreme vibrations in my hands.

Biting (me biting you)

Sincere, personal praise

Treating you like a beloved pet

Allowing you to paint my toenails or manicure my fingernails

Brushing my hair/giving me a scalp massage, perhaps even washing my hair?

Light cuddling (soothing physical touch as part of aftercare expected)

Being elevated to slavehood, being allowed to give me personal service in something at which you excel

Something that gives you a true sense of gratification, which I won’t discover until we meet and talk about our mutual interests and goals.

LIMITS

Specific, Hard & Soft

Just to get this out of the way up front:

Erotic or sensual domination, full-body worship, or tease-and-denial is available through my escort website.

The point is simple: if you contact me through this website, I expect to provide domination, not companionship.

Perhaps I’m not doing it right, but my escort experiences have shown me I don’t get to play with power in the delicious way domination does.

I like solid boundaries. Here are mine:

Do not touch me without my explicit permission. This includes worship sessions.

These limits are in addition to the limits listed on the Home page.

Anything where I take a submissive role, or switch. Not happening.

Being told what to wear. I wear what I wish. This has nothing to do with you and everything to do with me. Why would it be otherwise?

Any kind of wrestling is a hard limit. Nor pinning, despite my exceedingly strong legs. I do not provide grappling of any kind.

Foot fetishists may not worship above the knee. Depending on the person, I may not allow the tongue to touch my foot.

Smoking (asthma prevents this, unfortunately)

Excessive cuddling

Being a Mommy

Topping from below/bratty subs

Attempting to force me into a service-top role, I prefer connection and interaction instead of just doing the thing.

Fire play

Roman showers

Play requiring medical training. That is coming, it’s an intense interest of mine.

Breath play in any circumstances, includes waterboarding. You are allowed to hold your own breath without touching your throat.

Other than my personal quirks, hard limits can be assumed to exist at the point where other living beings are harmed (including either of us), people under 25 are involved, or where there is any question of consent (this will limit some public play, as not everyone can be assumed to wish to be part of our fun).

If you think your fantasies run into these very hard limits, then they are not meant to be. Some may be modified (especially public-play scenarios). Other scenarios cannot and have to remain fantasy.

Reality is where we must live and imagination often goes well beyond reality. I’m sure you’ve found this true in the mundane world as well as the BDSM world.

Most of this depends on our relationship, as you might reasonably expect.

Golden showers are reserved for returning submissives/fetishists and are considered a reward, not a humiliation or punishment. Brown showers because it’s something I’ve not yet tried.

I don’t consider pony-play or pup-training to be animal play, because no actual animals are involved, nor is the concept dependent upon sexualizing an animal (a fine line, there is a blog post coming on this topic). I am not interested in furries.

Race play. It depends entirely on your motivations and your expectations for the scene. I believe this could be healing, in certain scenarios. Reinforcing harmful stereotypes holds no interest for me.

Do I allow female penitents? Yes, I do. I’m well aware of the frisson of wanting to be subjected by a woman you find darkly scintillating. There are dommes at whose feet I’ve wanted to kneel, who made me tremble. I welcome women who want the experiences I can offer.

Couples are welcome, but there will be a hierarchy. The most satisfying hierarchy is a ladder, not a triangle. Power play is not about equality. Have your own hierarchy figured out before you contact me, though I may change it once we meet in person. After all, I might see something that neither of you do.

Couples are required to attend a public interview before any playtime is booked. Both of you must screen and both of you must attend the interview.

Surrender

…your own will, some of your desires, your freedom, making decisions, your clothing

Submission

kneeling at my feet, answering me honestly, paying homage to that which you will never be, understanding I am your superior in every way, reveling in delight when you please me, aching when you don’t

Submersion

unable to stay away, spending more time with me guiding your every thought, guiding how your body acts and reacts, listening to my voice, learning how to please me without a single word, wallowing in the thrill of chastisement, learning to serve me, finding freedom in bondage

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The Lady Ava

Psychological dominatrix in Richmond, Charlottesville, Williamsburg, DC, Raleigh, Durham, Virginia Beach. Offering BDSM, kink, fetish, femdomme sessions of various types for The Lady’s personal amusement. Currently no online services are offered, other than a non-video phone interview for compatibility.

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