The Thinking Man’s Domme
Smart is sexy. Power is sexier.
You agree or else you wouldn’t here.
Power is energy, neither created nor destroyed by any process, only converted from one form to another.
THE POINT OF conversion is where the fun starts.
Power play is energy play. It’s circular, impossible to accomplish any other way; rarely found in vanilla spaces.
Which is why you’re here: you want to be seen, heard, have a woman lavish you in hyper-focus because it’s how she gets her kicks. I relish what’s to come.
I may not be a typical service-top and it’s unlikely I’ll ever have a fully-stocked dungeon because I truly believe the most effective dungeon is the one in your mind. It’s dank and filthy and traps you far better than device money could buy.
It is there I will cause you the most torment. It’s there that I plan on locking you up, or setting you free.
We’re going on an adventure of discovery and exploration together.
What’s next? Fun and games. Pain and pleasure. Humiliation and freedom. All those wonderful paradoxes that only a conflicted soul can offer.
What you can expect:
Compassion without mercy
Fierce focus and awareness, excuses not welcome
Understanding without sympathy
Intuitive, brutally honest, insight
Ethical without mercy
Limits respected, then pushed
Do our interests align?
My Interests: General
Intimidating and frightening you. Shaking your soul to your core. Perhaps even improving how you relate to women.
Having fun. My idea of fun may not be the same as yours. Suck it up, buttercup.
Learning.
Those who enjoy serving as test subjects for a burgeoning sadist.
Not being bored.
Being impressed by your servitude.
Reciprocation. As my interest is bent on you, so should your attention be on me.
Fetishes of various kinds. I’m well aware I enjoy attention paid to my feet. There are several other fetishes which I’d like to try, with the proper enthusiast. I’m in a very explorative mood right now. This is to your benefit.
The more-typical list of interests is linked below. Keep these general interests in mind as they matter the most to me.
What about my limits?
Limits: General
My minimum age for male playmates is 35 and 30 for women. No exceptions. If you’re new to play, that’s perfectly fine. I do not currently have a maximum age limit.
I am CPR-trained but not certified. (That is coming.) I respect the limits of the body, which is one reason I’m more drawn to psychological play: there are no real limits to the mind, only self-perceived and self-imposed limits.
If you have extreme physical limitations, you’re still welcome to apply. I am a creative person and have no doubt about my ability to provide play or terror within your physical limits. Being upfront about your specific limitations is helpful, especially if special accomdations must be made.
My RVA incall space is wheelchair accessible. I offer outcall, as well. I see no reason why your body should make you unfit to serve in a way that pleases both of us.
I do not engage in age play of any kind, any sort of fantasy or play involving animals, people under 25, dead beings, or actual forced intoxication (fantasy intoxication is different). My Interests page has more detail on these limits because there is a bright line between imagination and physical reality.
My current skillset does not include most medical or any blood play. I hope to change that soon. Experienced, experimental subjects are welcome.
Sissification or forced feminization, or using female stereotypes as a tool of humiliation. Being a woman is not degrading, or a punishment to dole out. If you honestly think that being a man is superior to being a woman, I have genetic news for you. I can find plenty of ways to humiliate you as a man without ever degrading my sex on your behalf.
Nor do I indulge in male delusions of being female. You can always become a better man, a more humane man — that doesn’t make you female. Neither does wanting to be a slut. Womanhood is not: a costume, a fetish, a punishment or humiliating to be.
I am a female supremacist and abhor misogyny, no matter how innocuous or hidden it seems. As a femdomme, allowing or encouraging misogyny is counter to my raison d’etre.
SMART-ASS FEMDOMME
THE LADY AVA
EMOTIONAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL SADIST & HUMILIATRIX
The one constant through my background work to this debut has been “This is going to be so much fun!” and “I forgot there’s so many fun toys and things to do to people!”.
While I love to give a great mindfuck; upon reflection it turns out I like to play games of all kinds, with a penchant for creating silly games on the fly.
As with everything about me, there are multiple facets to explore. Despite the intensity of most the text here, I can be light-hearted and playful.
Mindfuckery and games that leave you laughing; games that leave you gasping. You have more choice than you think.
Our energy exchange is circular, which means you do 50% of setting the tone, if not more.
If you enjoy a smart-ass domme with gleeful rewards and punishments, you’re going to enjoy me thoroughly.
If you want heavy and darker psychodrama, you’ll be thrilled when my psychological sadist surfaces. I’ll be happy to destroy you for my own amusement. I find male destruction amusing, as it is.
In short, I expect domination to be my playground. Men, my toys. I love the new, I love variety, I don’t like repeating myself or being bored.
So don’t bore me.
WHAT’S NEXT
I highly recommend following the order listed below for a comprehensive understanding of what I do and do not offer you.
MIND CANDY [DARKER]
Thoughts, plans, details, personal history, objects of desire (aka a blog, once I begin writing entries)
No posts
Surrender
…your own will, some of your desires, your freedom, making decisions, your clothing
Submission
kneeling at my feet, answering me honestly, paying homage to that which you will never be, understanding I am your superior in every way, reveling in delight when you please me, aching when you don’t
Submersion
unable to stay away, spending more time with me guiding your every thought, guiding how your body acts and reacts, listening to my voice, learning how to please me without a single word, wallowing in the thrill of chastisement, learning to serve me, finding freedom in bondage
Website
The Lady Ava
Psychological dominatrix in Richmond, Charlottesville, Williamsburg, DC, Raleigh, Durham, Virginia Beach. Offering BDSM, kink, fetish, femdomme sessions of various types for The Lady’s personal amusement. Currently no online services are offered, other than a non-video phone interview for compatibility.